So You’re review Getting Married?

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You’ve found “the one” and have decided you will spend the rest of your lives together. You may have talked about growing your family, a new house and other plans for the future but have you thought about how you will achieve those goals? Marriage is a partnership and you review need to know how you can achieve those goals together. Discussing your finances may not be a conversation that you want to have but it is necessary to avoid issues that may arise later.

Debt, for example is one of the most important things a couple should discuss. Do you or your partner have any outstanding debt? If yes, does your partner know about it? Are you aware of each other’s income? Whatever the case may be, you need to communicate with each other and be open about your finances.

A recent BMO survey shows that most married Canadians wish they had discussed their financial matters with each other before walking down the aisle. While 98% of Canadians agree they should be on the same page as their spouses, when it comes to finances, most of them aren’t! A whopping 40% of these couples say they have different investing styles from their partners.

It’s not surprising then, that more than half of Canadian married couples have financial regrets, with 62% saying they wish Tubit they had discussed their financial plans and pasts before getting married.

Most of all, you would have been used to people and developed a sense of loyalty that caring people have, so you would be affected when you fight till you work it out – not walk out the door.

“I can’t stand you right now” is that confession of ‘I can do it all by myself’. People that really pull through things alone tend to be difficult. Individuality and independence is the norm of our age, but we need to approach them indirectly sometimes so not to have their disadvantages kill us.

Well, many may be in marriages or relationships already and this solution does not count. However, pass it on. Encourage the younger generation to find themselves, have friends, find life and relate with people. Then for you, listen more than need and demand; you can make amends.

You had something together, strive to build on what you had/have. Start discovering and relating with him or her now: Ask questions like your young self would do, want to play, be curious and interested. All these things are traits of a child – that is why your happiness today should have been built from yesterday. I always tell people, grow up, but don’t lose that child. He or she is the happy one.

Listen more… Discovering yourself is more than success. It is fulfillment, and the foundation of happiness. Discover you, your partner and what connects your differences; then strike that deal of living together (why you should have learned living with someone).

All the same, I want to keep this brief and have you deduce the solution from your raw emotions now, than an outsider’s prescriptions. Ask questions to get more.

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